It’s been a long time since the last time I write about something. Life gets busy, or maybe I am just too lazy to update my story, my notes.
And believe me, I almost forgot my blog’s name and the password; but fortunately, I recovered it.
So for the first post for almost 4 years, I’d like to share a thought that has come to my mind lately.
Now, let’s look inside your room. Is there any items (a doll, a blanket, a pillow, or anything else) which in you possession for a very long time. And maybe, you can’t sleep without those things. Maybe, it’s an ugly doll with holes, or an old blanket that smells awful, or a pillow with plenty of stains on it (don’t ask “what stain?” you droll what I mean).
Those things are called comfort object. According to Wikipedia, A comfort object, transitional object, or security blanket is an item used to provide psychological comfort, especially in unusual or unique situations, or at bedtime for small children. Among toddlers, comfort objects may take the form of a blanket, a stuffed animal, or a favorite toy, and may be referred to by English-speaking toddlers as blankey and lovey.
Those things are the things that grew up with us. Don’t deny it; I know you have it right on your bed. It may look ugly, but you became angry when your mom put it into the washer, or you were going on a road trip with your friends and you were ashamed to bring your old dolls. But as soon as you can hold it again, you feel safe, secure, and you can sleep peacefully again.
Now, put that filthy blanket aside. Let’s pay a visit to your wardrobe. Take your best suit, the most expensive one; that one designer gown you feel so proud of. But then, you went on a party and someone wore the exact same outfit. After that, you came back home, fold that dress, and swore you’d never wear again (which I think you would end up sell or donate that dress.)
You bought another dress; more expensive, more delicate, and custom made. You make sure that no one in the whole world has the same dress like yours. But after you wore it to 10 (most probably less) parties, that dress become less prettier (??). You think it is not so special anymore, and you got bored. You gave it to charity, or sell it online. And then, the journey to find another dress continues.
After we finished looking at what is inside our room, now I want all of us to look inside our heart. What kind of relationship that you are having right now. Are you, right now, in a relationship with someone who is far from perfect? But the same person completes you, giving a sense of security, comfort, and you know you can see a future with them?
Or, are you, right now, in a flashy relationship with your ‘trophy’ bf/gf who looks so perfect, and you can show it off to your friends in facebook, instagram, or path for a couple months, before you ended up in the arms of someone else (which is, I believe, would only last for a couple months too.)
It seems like I’m judging everyone about how to live their life. Well, I do actually. People judge, there is no doubt ‘bout that. But what I like to point out is, is that really the kind of relationship that you want? Do you or do you not, somewhere deep down in your heart, think that your flashy (and most probably fake) relationship is wasting you precious life? Don’t you want something more than just a date at the fancy restaurant?
I am not having the best experience about relationship myself, but I believe that if I could find someone who makes me comfortable, I know the rest is not that hard anymore. Life can be rough sometimes, and it would be nice when you close the night with someone who hugs you with compassion, not fucks you with lust.
